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I am…

Last week on Facebook I read this status update;

“I am a Christian and not ashamed to say it!! Let’s see how many people on FB aren’t afraid to show their love for God and accept Jesus as our Savior! Each time you see this on someone’s status, say a quick prayer for that person!! Let’s get God back in this country like He should be!!! If you agree, post this in your…”

I decided to re-write it, but didn’t post it for fear of offending the small handful of friend who also put in on their status update.

I grew up in the church. A liberal Christian Church. So liberal that in high school after getting involved in a religious group at school I got annoyed with church. It was too casual. I struggled with the cute light stories told in an effort to help everyone understand the stories in the bible. I wanted to study the bible. I wanted to know what this guy up front knew about that book, that the more I read the less I understood. I wanted to know what the bible said, what it meant for that time. I’m not the smartest person in the room ever, but I felt like I was being talked down to and it annoyed me. This didn’t seem like casual stories or times and demanded a more serious dialogue.

So I went off to college and stopped going to church. No real reason, I just didn’t go. I don’t think my thinking or thoughts on religion changed in either direction. I just wasn’t interested.

As the years passed I read about a lot of different religions. I can’t say today that I participate in any sort of organized religious events. I’ve read about and looked at Judaism, Sufism; I read and studied A Course In Miracles and Buddhism. I like reading Elaine Pagels, Karen Armstrong and recently Joan Chittister. I started reading Chittister, a former Nun because of what she said on Bill Moyers.

“The fact of the matter is that they’re all in contention with something else which is also a moral value and also equally important unless you put it completely out of your mind or your heart. For instance, let’s look at the abortion question. I’m opposed to abortion.

But I do not believe that just because you’re opposed to abortion that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking. If all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed and why would I think that you don’t? Because you don’t want any tax money to go there. That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is.“ NOW 11.12.04

“That’s not pro-life. That’s pro-birth.” Exactly!

But I’m getting off topic. Big surprise!

I like the history of the bible as history, real or otherwise. It doesn’t really matter to me which. Because it was written so long ago for so many reasons that NO one will ever know. Try as they might, I just don’t see how anyone can have any idea of the intentions of someone that long ago.

So I don’t have any particular religious or spiritual traditions. But I do read a lot of Pema Chodron. My thoughts and ideas tend to align with Buddhism and I’ve often thought of serious study of this religion.

Anyway, I re-wrote that Facebook status and hope that if any of you reading are the ones who put this on your status that you are not offended. It’s just my take, and in no way is meant to devalue your beliefs.

I am a human and not ashamed to say it!! Let’s see how many people on FB aren’t afraid to show their love for humans and accept each and everyone as they are! Each time you see this on someone’s status, think of all the goodness that exists!! Let’s get compassion in this country like it should be!!! If you agree, post this in your status update – Charter For Compassion , just copy and paste.



Last yesterday afternoon Twitter, at least here in Portland, heated up with the urgent announcement for people west of the Willamette to boil their water for a minute because E. Coli was found in a random test of a water reservoir.

The Mayor’s tweet;
I guess that story about whether or not to let those who guard those reservoir’s to carry a gun will be put on the shelf.

As I watched the stream the word value was in my head.
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At least, it appears the Mayor is trying to take advantage of a tool that makes communication easy, quick and effective. Yet so many just don’t understand the potential impact of this easy tool. The value. Did we even know that water had a Twitter account?
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Now I’m the first one to say that everyone needs a break. Everyone should take a vacation and you should walk away from your desk at least once a day for more than a bathroom break. But Carri’s point is right on.

Do you hear the world value a lot? How often have you heard it at work? Maybe you don’t? How often do all of us fall short of bringing to the table and showing up with value?

How do we define value? Here is the Good thing is a substantial definition and covers not only, meaning and a monetary concept. It speaks to music and light.

For me the issue is that with value comes, accountability and responsibility. And who has time to be responsible and accountable to everyone they tell they will do something for? No really! Companies talk about value, the value-add of this, and the value we bring to our customer’s. And very often companies staff their departments so inadequately that they can’t actually deliver true value. That value they so eloquently spoke of to convince you to choose them.

I think the reality, it’s one of those words that get’s overused and at the same time underused. In other words, talked about in every staff meeting, conference and un-conference but never actually realized, lot’s of talk, no action.

I grabbed a few lines from some old work documents.

We seek customer relationships that share common values and where true, long-term partnerships are valued and nurtured.

provides the following “value-added” services as part of our offering.

Adding Value to Our Solutions
Adding Significant Value through Focused Savings

Together, we gain a clear, common understanding of the process and the value in completing each step.

And the big one!

A Strategic Value Add

All I can say; say what you mean and mean what you say. Be real. Pay attention and be present. Don’t forget what you say and what you do can have an impact on other’s. Like I tell my little friend, “Think about it, would you like it if your brother did that to you?” When she says, “No.” Then I say, “Then let’s not do that again.”

Now she is four so she is just learning. But hopefully she will start to understand consequences and the idea that things we do and say have consequences. And will take that into her adulthood. Sometimes they are happy, fun rewarding consequences. Other times they can have a negative impact.

Just pay attention! Awareness can be enlightening. And consider what the value of value is. What is it worth to you or you and your organization.

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the thing is

I like my life right now. As I said to someone the other day, I’m pretty happy, but I can’t afford to be this happy. Now in terms if happy, that’s a sliding scale. With the help of a small yellow pill I would say on a scale of 1 to 10, on a daily basis I’m running a strong 7.1. O.k., I couldn’t use a straight number and I almost said 1 to 11 or 13 to make it more challenging. I’ve always felt a little uninterested in that type of thing. Especially that one, “on a scale of 1-5.” What a cop out. Someone should run a check on how often the 3 is checked. That means nothing. Make a decision! Grow some and check the 2 or the 5 or yeah even the 1. Be honest. Think about it, really? What if we are honest all of the time? People wouldn’t be so shocked when they find out they really aren’t good at something and then the workplace might be a nice place to go to everyday. And if everyone were honest, I’m thinking that the behind the scenes banter would be limited. (well maybe not ~ but I can hope) If you are straight up honest and open with everyone, what is there to talk about? I can hear it now, “I am so not good at this. Can you believe she told me I wasn’t good at that, then asked me to do this … which I love!”

Today the Charter For Compassion was unveiled.

The principle of compassion lies at the heart of all religious, ethical and spiritual traditions, calling us always to treat all others as we wish to be treated ourselves. Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honour the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.


it creeped in

It’s November;


This place has found it’s way to my story …

Longview Farm